April 13, 2011
I don’t know where I first heard it, probably TV psycho-babble. It is something that stuck with me and has changed the way I communicate. I enjoy listening to other people use it in conversation and I pay extra close attention when I use the word.
What is it?
When you say “but”, it really means,”Please disregard what I just said, now I’m going to tell you what I really think…”.
As in “I like your dress, but the back is too low” or “I see your point, but I think…” or “I would never take your dog, but if it follows me….”
Do yourselves a favor and only listen to the second half of the sentence, after anyone says the word “but”. Especially, listen you yourself, if you use it often.